NinjaTalk 101:

• It really helps if before you communicate with anyone to breathe, exhale and look them in the eye.

• When someone makes a statement let them. If you have questions about the statement ask them but do not be surprised if you get the original statement as the answer to your question. Repeating this process = “don’t get it”

• Asking questions slightly different to get a different answer will likely result in the original statement or answer repeated, with more questions.

• Changing or substituting words for the other person is not OK and is a boundary for some people.

• Taking a break from a conversation is OK. Especially if it is to think about what the other person said and breathe.

• Saying “You” and “I” outside of the context of “cause and effect” will likely not help.

• Let go together, no last word just a breath.

• Some kind of hug, handshake or dap would be nice after.

• If you have further questions or comments, consult “the man upstairs” who seems to be driving the voice in your head.